Throughout Nate’s life, especially when he was younger, people would give me their advice or resources. Even now, as I blog, people offer me help and send me links to resources to help my child with challenges or difficulties, which I have expressed in a few blog posts.
I know people want to help. So let me say it now.
“Thank you very much for offering advice and resources.”
I truly appreciate all who want to help me by giving me information or suggestions that will benefit my son. I know that people mean well as they believe that what they did for their child, will without a doubt, work for Nate. So, once again, “Thank you.”
In the past, as I have shifted through all the messages and resources, I realized that some people don’t understand that all children with special needs are different. They are not the same. I even wrote a post title, All Children With Special Needs Are Not The Same.
For example, someone suggested that I allow my child to have acupuncture and another gave me information on brain therapy. These resources are great, but not for my child.
Sadly, people have become annoyed, and even mad, because I was not receptive to their advice. They think that I am denying their help or I am against trying new ways to help Nate, which is not true. I have taken advice from parents, professionals, and experts. Some I have tried and some have worked well. Yet, some have not because it wasn’t a right fit for my son.
These people don’t understand that just because a therapy, medication, and procedure worked for one child may not work for another. There is no cookie-cutter child with special needs, or a one size-fit-all therapy program. All people are unique and require resources that will fit their needs.
So, please don’t think that I am ignoring your advice. I am not. I am just a parent who understands what works for one special needs child, may not work for another, because all children with special needs are different.