How do you want to be treated by others?
Good or Bad?
With or Without Respect?
Well, remember this FACT…
“You are the teacher, and you teach people how to treat you.”
After a conversation with a friend, she shared these words with me. “You teach people how to treat you.” Although I had heard it before, this time her comment stayed in my mind as I continued to meditate on it, and say to myself…..
“Charlene, you teach people how to treat you.”
Immediately my mind reverted to a relationship, where I realized that the way I was treated, was because I did not educate this man on how to treat me. I basically gave him a “free pass” that allowed him to disrespect me.
I did this by accepting his continuous breakups. His numerous “I don’t know what I want,” “I’m not sure,” “I love you, but I’m not ready”, “Let’s wait”, and “I don’t have any money” and more. I allowed him to lie, and then comeback more times than I can count, after his pitiful words of “I’m sorry.”
Although, I never verbalized or told him it was acceptable, I indirectly showed him that he could hurt me, treat me bad, complain, blame me for his actions, not pray and read his bible with me, and decide to end it when he wanted. It was me, who said by my actions that “The horrible way you treat me, is all right,” when it actually wasn’t.
I understand now, that I basically modeled that this man’s behavior was acceptable, when I didn’t hold him accountable or up to the standards that God had for me.
And I am thankful that our relationship is over and God did not allow me to marry him. I am even more grateful for the hard and valuable lesson that I have learned, which is….
“If you want to be treated with respect, valued, and loved, WE must be adamant, clear, direct, and strong. We have to model what WE expect and NEVER settle for less. When WE do this, anyone that we encounter, will know how we expect to be treated.”