Loving and Respecting Yourself – What Does It Mean?

Loving and Respecting Yourself - What does it mean? - CharleneBullard.com - Faithtoraisenate.com - Purposedrivencharlene.com
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Over the years, I have heard people say…

“You have to love and respect yourself.”

Whenever I heard this I shook my head in agreement, as I believed that I was doing this very thing. Yes! I loved and respected myself.  I loved the person I was, which included the physical me; my hair, my body, as well as my mind, my attitude, and my choices. I loved everything about me.

Yet, this became a thought after ending a toxic relationship. As I sat angrily, I thought to myself…“this person is treating me as if I have low-self esteem.” Then I asked myself the question. “Are you loving and respecting yourself?” And there I was realizing that I was not. Not at all!

Defining love and respect of oneself can mean many things to people. However, what I have learned in the past year is that loving and respecting myself means that I care about “Me” to the extent that I will NOT allow myself to be harmed and damaged by things or people. It means I only allow things or people in my life that are beneficial to my spiritual, mental, and emotional health and development.

As I thought about this, I made a list of 8 things that loving and respecting oneself means.

1- Loving and respecting yourself means that a person will not allow people to disrespect them.
2- Loving and respecting yourself means that a person will not settle for less than God’s best.
3- Loving and respecting yourself means that a person will have standards and they will NEVER reduce them to make someone else feel secure.
4- Loving and respecting yourself means that a person will remove unhealthy things or relationships from their life.
5- Loving and respecting yourself means you will not allow people to hurt or abuse you mentally or physically.
6- Loving and respecting yourself means that a person will NOT compromise their beliefs to conform to the majority.
7- Loving and respecting yourself means that a person will NOT let someone take their voice.
8- Loving and respecting yourself means that a person will surround themselves with people who make them better.

When we love and respect ourselves we will not settle or allow others to mistreat us. Instead, we live a life of high standards, never letting anyone treat us WITHOUT the love and respect that we deserve.

 

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      Charlene

      Yes, it was a learning process, and continues to be. We all need to learn what we deserve and expect it. Thank you so much for reading my blog. I truly appreciate it.

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