“I have to do what is best for Nate and for me.” I told Nate’s doctor, as we discussed options for caring for him. It was a conversation that we had many times —
“Should Nate be prescribed medication for his severe behavior problems?”
For years Nate’s behavior took precedence over our life, while I struggled with the decision of placing Nate on medication. I did numerous research, reading articles about the “over-medication” of children and how doctors were quick to diagnosis children with some kind of psychological disorder. I read how experts thought that parents were also in a hurry to locate a “quick fix”, some type of magic pill to calm down or cure their hyper child.
I battled with my decision as Nate and I went through the mental health system. Nate was approved for behavior health treatment, which included wraparound services. Nate had a Behavioral Specialist (BSC), Therapeutic Support Staff (TSS), Mobile Therapist (MT), and more. Yet, with all these services in place there was always the thought of medication to help control Nate’s aggressive behaviors, that were taking over our life.
In the past, I had many reasons for saying no. One reason was because of my deep concern of the impact it would have on Nate’s physical health. I didn’t understand how it would affect his organs, as he was born with a heart defect and a unilateral kidney. The second reason was because I was worried that it would leave Nate in a sluggish state, where he was unable to function. Caring for him in such a condition would make it difficult. Lastly, the reason that bothered me the most was, I worried about the backlash from others, who believed that giving my child medications was the easy way out and I was not putting my trust in a higher power to cure or help Nate.
These reasons bothered me so much that for years I wavered in making a clear decision.
Then after speaking to Nate’s doctor, I realized that I had to do what was best for my son and for me. I was the one that was raising Nate, caring for his daily needs and making decisions for him. So if deciding to try medications was the best decision for us, I would do that.
I could no longer let the world dictate what was best for my child.