Would You Change Having Your Child With Special Needs?

Would you change having your child with Special Needs? - faithtoraisenate.com - charlenebullard.com - purposedrivencharlene.com
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Would you change having your child with special needs?

This is by far, one of the top questions people ask me, since I am a parent of a child with special needs. I don’t take the question as rude or mean. I also don’t think it is a “stupid” question for someone to ask, as I know life is not such where I can change my circumstances and make them different.

Yet, when asked this question, I usually don’t have to think much about my answer. I already know it.

“No!” I say.

“No, I would not change having my child with special needs.”

Of course there are a million things I would change and do differently. What parent doesn’t have their own regrets in child rearing? However, to replace Nate with a child that didn’t have his needs would be to replace the person I have become since I gave birth to him.

God has definitely used my son to make me into the person I am today. Over the last 23 years, raising Nate has taught me so much.

1- I have learned to be strong.
2- I have learned that it is all right to be weak.
3- I have learned how to be a servant.
4- I have learned how to be self-less.
5- I have learned that I need to depend on others.
6- I have learned that it is all right to ask for help.
7- I have learned how to work as a team.
8- I have learned that it is all right to rest.
9- I have learned that sharing our life is helpful to others.
10- I have learned how to live one day at a time.
11-I have learned that I don’t need to worry (even though I still do at times).
12- I have learned from my mistakes in raising Nate.
13- I have learned that it is all right to cry.
14- I have learned not to worry about what people think.
15- I have grown in confidence.
16-I have learned to have grace, mercy, and compassion toward others.
17- I have learned patience.
18- I have learned how to pray.
19- I have learned that I need God more than anything in my life.
20- I have learned the meaning of unconditional love.

…..and so much more.

Raising Nate has blessed me greatly. It has shaped my character, attitude, and heart.  So, to once again answer that question…

Would You Change Having Your Child With Special Needs?

No, I would not change having my child with special needs.

No! Not at all!

Question: What have you learned from your child with our without special needs?

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    dancingpalmtrees

    As a sibling I would answer No. I would not change Stephen. Stephen is the sweetest, kindest most compassionate being I know. Stephen has been a Blessing to me since he first entered the world and I can truly say that my brother Stephen is my Best Friend.

    Things I would change are how our Mother was treated after Stephen’s diagnosis. I know Mom suffered a lot because people are mean, cruel and backwards especially during the 1960s. But I’m glad both our mother and father held their ground, believed in Stephen and because of them that’s why Stephen has progressed so much over the years.

    Both of us owe everything to our parents. Even though I may try I can never fill their shoes or take their place.

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    Margaret from soulfood101blog

    I am trying to NOT be judgmental but, who would ask such a question?? I know you don’t take it as mean and all but I am always amazed at my brothers and sisters sometimes. I am always inspired by your post. So positive, so much love for God, and faith. God bless you. On another note, if you keep getting a “follow” from me it’s because wordpress drops my follow list. I don’t know why. I only follow about 20 people, one would think wordpress could manage that hahaha. I am adding you, AGAIN. God bless you :):)

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    Elizabeth

    I have learned that while children come through our women’s bodies, they are completely new creations of God’s. I am astonished by the total variety of human beings, mine included.

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